The Mythology of Erogenous Zones


I once had a lover tell me that my whole body was an erogenous zone. It was one of the best compliments I’ve ever received! And subsequently it got me to thinking…

We’ve all heard of erogenous zones - those special areas on the body said to create pleasure and automatically turn your partner on - as if we are computers with little buttons that can be pushed to create a specific response.

But sexual intimacy is far more than a series of steps to orgasm.

The reality is that our entire body can be activated into a state of bliss, and this ecstatic feeling can begin and be generated from many points on the body which are individual to every single one of us.

This is important to know because believing in the common mythology of a specific set of erogenous zones can limit us in a couple important ways:

Tunnel vision - If we feel that there are certain areas on the body that will arouse our partner when we touch them there, we will limit ourselves to pleasuring those areas, instead of being present with our partners in the moment. Its true, your wife may always enjoy her breasts rubbed, but then again she may have days where that isn’t of interest. Sticking to just the known can put lovemaking into a repetitive rut.

Poor Self-Image - We may also feel that, if our bodies don’t respond to the known erogenous zones, there is something wrong with us or the way we get turned on. We may expect that our genitals be more sensitive than they are, while what really gets us in a state of bliss is having our feet rubbed. When we are expecting our bodies to respond in a certain way, we are not being present with ourselves, and may entirely miss what can really bring us to our pleasure.

Conscious Sexuality revolves around being present: present with our bodies, and present with our partners. Deep presence connects us to far more than just the physical enjoyment of our sexual experience, it is a gateway into the energetic realms which are beyond time and space, allowing us to experience trance-like states of pleasure and opening up our ecstatic bodies. If we can pull ourselves away from the idea that only certain parts of our body can bring us pleasure, we are on our way to this level of presence, and beginning our sacred sexuality journey.

Let's stop centralizing our pleasure - an awakened body is ecstatic.

What is Sacred Sexuality?


I get this question quite often, so I thought I’d answer here with my understanding of it.

In my coaching, I tend to use the term Conscious Sexuality. This is because the word “sacred” seems to me to separate sexuality in terms of the acts that occur - meaning that people think of sacred sexuality being a specific way of love-making: sculptured positions from the kama sutra, or breathing practices and chanting. While these practices can definitely be included in elevated sexuality, they are not necessary.

Its also important for me to share that one way of connecting sexually is NOT more spiritual than another. Whips and handcuffs can become an elevated spiritual practice as much as the missionary position, and sex between strangers as spiritually uplifting as sex between two married people.

What makes sexuality “sacred” is the consciousness of those participating. When we have the intention of presence, honesty, love, and growth within our motivations, the act of sex is sacred.

Within this consciousness we are able to activate our bodies into elevated states of bliss, and our spiritual consciousness grows and expands as well. Within the act of sex and bringing our bodies pleasure, altered states of consciousness can be accessed, much like what happens during the use of plant medicines or deep meditation.

And, worth noting, that the act of sex is so powerful that it can often make a sacred moment out of something quite benign, spontaneously activating one or both (or all) those involved into an other-worldly awareness.

I personally believe that sex in and of itself is a spiritual practice, in that bringing our bodies pleasure is a great act of self-love, and self-love is spiritual. We are on earth to have the experience of a physical body - and we ought to learn the many ways of caring for it. Allowing the body to be a portal to delicious and ecstatic higher consciousness states is a beautiful way to learn and develop ourselves as spiritual beings.

Connecting with my Family - Starseed from Andromeda

The following was originally posted on April 15, 2016, on my previous website:


Below are the transcribed notes from a channeling conversation I had with my soul family from Andromeda. Here I was shown much about why I incarnated on earth, where Wind is "from" (although he has also lived on earth for thousands of lifetimes), and our connection as twin flames, or what here is called "split soul awareness". Thus far this is the most in depth information I have gotten about my starseed origins, and the beautiful and loving beings from Andromeda whom I often channel!

ALLISON: Andromeda, will you tell me more about Andromeda, about your people, about who I am channeling?

Our race/species is very loving. We are of the seventh plane (what we know as dimensions) and our calling is to assist you in this earthly realm. We are very grateful for it, and we love doing it. We will assist you always, because it fills us with joy beyond comprehension to assist in an earthly ascension. This is because our planet has also undergone an earthly ascension process. During this phase of our evolution, we had interplanetary help as well. We learned much from these benevolent beings, and we chose to assist earth during this time because it is our benevolent nature to assist you.

You see us correctly. (What I'm seeing is a sort of round head, large eyes, blue bodies, no hair; big eyes, like green with a long pupil like a cat. Their arms are long and their fingers are like frog fingers- round on the end. I wonder if they are just showing me what I can understand though.)

You are one of us, Allison. You have traveled across eons to assist the people of earth at this time. We know you love it, and that there is much joy in the process for you. What you don't know is how you came to be associated with these people in the first place.

Your calling was actually to assist during Mayan times, in building the ancient Mayan calendar. (That's cool!! That is really cool.) When you had finished with the process, you were anxious to continue in your service to mankind, therefore we devised a plan for you to enter into the human consciousness field and enjoy one of their earthly times: this time. You are here on a sacred mission, to assist with the ascension of the planet. This has been programmed into your DNA from the very beginning. You have known it always, there is nothing now keeping you from fulfilling your destiny in this manner; you are all set.😊

It is important for you to realize how much we are assisting you in your calling. This will keep you grounded and humble, and knowing that you are never alone. We do much work behind the scenes on your behalf. We are always creating a way for you to fulfill all that you have before you. Allow us to work through you by opening yourself up further to these higher energies and continually grounding yourself into the energies of this planet; this will aid us in bringing in new interplanetary awareness and understanding at this time. We are very proud of you for the work you do.

WIND: So if that's where you're from, am I from the same place?

Sirius - you're from Sirius. Sirius is your home planet. We connected you two on the planet at this time with split-soul awareness to assist each of you in your personal callings. This does not mean that you have not known each other before, but rather this means that your energies have become intertwined from a knowing that for predates this galaxy/star system. This higher awareness of each other brings a higher awareness within your callings. In this day and age, it is important to have two doing the work that one used to do. This is to aid in your powerfulness, to bring a more all encompassing beauty into this world from the polarities of both masculine and feminine. (I'm literally getting these words: It is a cool gig that you have chosen, and exciting times are ahead for us all!)

Wind, your chosen calling is to thread time; to weave through the expanses of time and to bring them together. (Kind of like quantum physics, like when you've got linear time, like when you pull a thread and it brings fabric together? Am I getting that right?) Yes mostly. Your ability to see beyond time is what makes this a fitting choice for you. You are a time weaver, a time threader. You are bringing the expanses of time together in one moment, on finite moment. The common thread IS love.

WIND: Is there a way that I should be trying to accomplish that, that I don't understand? It seems like a very ambiguous and overwhelming task.

(It's funny because where I sit right now, it's just you, it's just who you are. It doesn't seem ambiguous at all.) You are here to help others see beyond time; to collapse the funhouse of mirrors and to see clearly in all directions. When you are fully activated in this calling, you are able to see time in all directions. This will become more clear to you as you move forward in your calling.

ALLISON: Have I been on this earth before? Have Wind and I been here together before?

It was your choice to never have been here before; only in spirit form have you seen these planes. You chose to activate at this time as a new soul on this planet because the calling was great and needed you to be unaware of what was in store for you. (Hmmm, so I've never been here before! That feels more accurate than anything.)

ALLISON: What about my past life regression experiences?

(...It's my highly empathic ability. Wow.) Your highly empathic perspective allows you to jump into the perspective of another human body, in the past, present, or future. (This is really cool information! It reminds me of the tv show, Quantum Leap!) Because of this empathic nature that you have, you need to be highly aware of yourself at all times, and grounded in the present moment, for you have a great capacity to lose yourself in the awareness of others. Your highest calling, Allison, is to be aware of your higher consciousness, and to be a bridge between heaven and earth. (My body is a literal bridge - and it's a rainbow! The chakras are a rainbow - heaven and earth!)

My Tobacco Plant Medicine Diet (Video from Jan 2016)

The following was originally posted in January of 2016 on my previous website,

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Recently I partook in a tobacco plant medicine diet at a healing lodge in Peru. Here I talk about this truly life changing process and some of the things I experienced, both during and free the diet.

Many people have heard of Ayahuasca at this point, but the sacred medicinal plant diets of the Amazon are still largely unheard of. I did a 7 drink tobacco dieta, and it was an incredibly transformative experience for me. Each day was filled with unique insight and clarity; assisting me in dissolving long held emotional patterns and removing deeply held fears in the form of smokey-black pain bodies. I was also shown, with great clarity, my purpose during this lifetime. And I cry over "shit"! (You'll see what I mean in the video.)

Much of my insight came after the diet was finished and I resumed "normal" life again, moving out of the jungle and into the busy city of Iquitos. I felt odd at first, almost brutish; I felt so grounded (which was so unlike anything I have previously known) that I felt nearly Neanderthal! As I settled in, however, I was able to integrate my newfound groundedness with my upper chakras, and felt very dynamic and capable. I felt a strength within that I have not known since I was a child! I began handling the finances in our (Wind's and my) relationship, which had always previously overwhelmed me. This and many other practical "life" things now felt like no big deal, and I wondered why I hadn't done them before - a true testament to how much tobacco had changed me, or rather helped me become more of myself.

Now, a month after the completion of this diet and having lived in the city for a month, I am still integrating all that this diet brought me. I am so grateful to have had this experience. I am sharing this video for any who might be looking for a process like this, and to spread the word about plant diets!🌿

If you are interested in this or other plant medicine diets, the lodge I recommend is Amaru Spirit:

How To Deal With Anger: A Life-Changing Practice

Anger is often a secondary emotion, used to help keep us "safe" from feeling out of control. Often underneath feelings of anger is fear, sadness, jealousy, and other emotions that seem unpleasant to our ego.

The most powerful way that I have found to dissolve anger is to instantly become vulnerable, and speak those feelings that our anger is trying to protect us from. How do we know if we're getting really vulnerable? True, deep vulnerablity leaves us feeling a surge of self-love. When we express those feelings that our ego is trying to mask with anger, our heart becomes vulnerable and opens, and we feel very strong and safe in that moment. In a moment of true vulnerability, it doesn't matter what anyone says to us as a result, because we are empowered with self-love.

Mudras to Assist with Ascension Energies

During yesterday's online meditation I was shown a new mudra we can use to assist in running the energy of this particular wave of ascension energy.

Many of us seem to be exploring the space between worlds or realms. This is the dreamscape, also known as the astral realms or the fourth dimension. We are learning a lot about time, and the space of no-time, as well as the insanity of the mental realms.

Mudras can help us move through energy shifts because, when we use our hands, we are consciously running our heart energy. Being anchored in the Heart space will guide us through the astral realms, and help us receive the higher truth lessons through these shifts.


The Spiritual Significance of Sexual Attraction

Why are we attracted to certain people, and not others?

For our soul purpose, our sexual attractions play an important role in magnetizing us directly to those people we are meant to connect with, in order to learn a lesson that we desire to learn.

This lesson isn't always a fun one. While we may have wishes or expectations of how this attraction will play out (a long-lasting loving relationship? Fulfilled desire?) often our lessons come in the form of pain or sorrow. But don't discount the fun and pleasurable experiences we have - at times too, our lessons show up as ecstatic joy! This is a very valuable thing to learn in life, and can indeed be brought to us through attraction to another person.

To be conscious within what we are experiencing, while also allowing the multidimensional knowing of the human experience, we can ask the question: "What are you bringing into my life? What lesson is there within this connection?"

And then, of course, PLAY! Don't deny yourself the human joys and trials of learning. Instead, play with your experience, and allow yourself to make new choices.

Love to you!




How to Meditate: Super Easy Meditation Practice

A lot of people whom I talk to lately have told me that they have a hard time meditating. They express that don’t really know what to do, or they find it miserable and uncomfortable, another chore to add in to their day.

But meditation is really so simple, as easy as taking a breath! By taking small moments to close our eyes, tune in, and breathe throughout the day, we easily and naturally build up to a regular meditation practice, because our minds start to register meditation as a pleasurable experience.


What Is Your Life Purpose?

This is a big question for a lot of people - what am I here for? What is my purpose, and how do I live it? The short version is that your life purpose is to shine your energetic frequency, and from bringing your frequency, your life path and work will reveal themselves. We are so focused on doing in our society that it can be confusing to understand how simple this is; but through focusing on our energy first and shining our unique frequency, we find our inspiration along the way and life the life we were born to live, day by day.

Ending a Relationship with Love


For many of us, the end of a relationship means ugliness: bitter fights, painful arguments that never feel resolved, and eventually divorce or separation, while fighting over all that was once shared, including custody of kids, and forcing friends to choose sides. I understand – when fights ensue, and pride gets hurt or we don’t feel heard, sometimes it can feel that the only way out is to rip the band-aid off completely in whatever way we can, to push for the separation that we need. 

Last year, my husband Wind and I were going through a rough patch. Our marriage up until this point had seemed unbreakable, and we had been through an incredible amount together as partners – far more than most in just four years. We had traveled through more than 10 countries on a tiny budget, lived in our minivan together for months, lived on communes, and with my parents. We had gone through the various intense shifts and dissolving of illusions that our awakenings had brought, had plant medicine journeys together, he had nursed me through my own heartbreaking sickness, and more recently, we had opened our marriage to polyamory. It was all an intense ride, but we had done it together and it had all bonded us tightly.

But slowly, the need for separation started showing itself. After all our closeness, we both started recognizing that to move forward, we needed to be individuals. Wind took a job that was out of state to satisfy his desire to travel and give me the space I was wanting. We had some arguments throughout this time of separation, but truth be told we weren’t fully aware of what was happening until it was upon us. Through a series of discussions and heated arguments, we began talking about our separation as something that needed to be more formal. That big ugly word – Divorce – came up.

I was completely devastated – I never thought that this would happen. Wind was the love of my life, my twin flame! It was never supposed to be like this. Separation was one thing, but to think of divorcing made everything inside of me hurt, especially the thought of going through that process with all the pain and unresolved emotions that we both were feeling.

As we were talking, discussing what we thought was inevitable, it occurred to me that there may be another way. After all, we weren’t feeling the need for divorce because we hated each other; we just somehow needed to acknowledge what was already happening, and do something concrete that would help us honor this and move on in our own paths. Through the tears, one of us said,

“What if we treated this separation the same way we treated our marriage? What if we turned it into a ceremony or something really beautiful?”

At that, the entire mood shifted. Surprisingly, we both started to get really excited at the prospect of making this transition a sacred moment and creating a ceremony together.  With just a simple reframing, we had changed the entire energy around what we were experiencing from devastatingly hurtful to a celebration of our strength. With a ceremony, we could honor the truth of the matter: that we cared deeply for each other and yet needed our autonomy; that our love for each other was so great that we could set each other free.

We planned the ceremony for Christmas day. We wrote vows to each other, just as we had done for our wedding, and we gathered symbolic items to create a sacred space. We even considered having one of our friends officiate our ceremony, but in the end decided to keep it private and avoid the need to schedule anything. And because we were living long distance at the time, we had to do the whole thing over skype. But it was a beautiful moment for us both. Though we were still dealing with the fatigue of our saddened hearts, taking the time to honor each other and our changing relationship was incredibly healing.

Why is it that we feel the need to end relationships with ugliness? Sometimes it is unavoidable – when a relationship ends and two people have been working on their differences for years and are saturated with frustrations, it makes sense that there would be a lot of animosity. With all the endless fighting, we may have lost trust in ourselves and our partner that we are capable of ever having peace again. Maybe we feel that fighting creates a clean break, and we’re worried that without intense anger and turning each other into enemies that we’ll be weak, and change our minds, returning to a damaging situation. 

There are many reasons that we may end our relationship with fighting and anger. My desire here is to offer another way to move through such a transition: through a loving ceremony. 

For Wind and me, the biggest surprise of all was that our ceremony allowed us to transition into a new level of friendship, almost immediately, without straining over our previous marital expectations of each other. Creating a sacred moment helped us to give a name to what we were experiencing and honor the it, while also giving space for the grieving process to occur. This allowed us to become present with our relationship in its new state. Through ceremony, we were able to move beyond the relationship with the same honoring and love that we began it with.